Faking it – acquaintance with gossips and controversies

Imagine, you are reading something quite interesting, when you hear a low murmuring somewhere near. Normally, you won’t pay any heed to such mono-syllabic sounds, but when it starts appearing in an intermittent fashion, often lined with a full sentence in between, what do you do in that case? You keep aside that that interesting piece which has been in your hand all this while, and try to tune your ear to the lower frequencies of human hearing so that you can actually hear what is being said. Suddenly you hear words which are too cheesy and mushy (though my friends may be at different opinions with this) and you suddenly you realize that you have a gossip here… (Okay gossips are for the fairer sex….)…or may be a possible relationship to talk and ponder over… Yes, a relationship. For the better or worse, that depends on what kind of relationship. (If you are still thinking what kind of murmur, you can ask any of your friends who has spent a quality time of his life in hostels and is acquainted with those poor souls waiting in anticipation for the night to end to meet some special people next day and meanwhile murmuring in mono-syllabic tones into one of the finest inventions of all-time-a cell phone)

Okay, you might say, how does this relate to the title, and I would say it does when the person in consideration (the above said murmur may or may not be an inspiration for this post, I can write a disclaimer if you want), though it can be seen in full light, fakes it saying what murmur is being talked about. See, (s)he is obviously Faking It. Now the question is why that person is faking or rather trying to brush aside the issue. There might be a great many reasons for this. May be there is actually nothing in that murmur to talk about or may be that person does not actually let the people know about this. Whatever might be the reason, it surely will keep your mind occupied, and racing to distant thoughts. You might even get into your Sherlock Holmes instinct search for clues in the daily behavior of the person in consideration, which might irritate him/her and he/she might resort to desperate measures (common tactics include maintaining distance with people while on a call, or not taking the call immediately but calling up later when no one’s around).

Here some might argue that every person should have his/her privacy and others should respect that. I agree and I do respect that thought. But my point is, if it’s really a relationship they want to go ahead with or if they are not too comfortable with the relation, they should let others know too before the news comes out in some other way. I know you might be thinking what if there is actually nothing to tell. Then why this secrecy? What is the reason to be all hushed up?

Many a times it happens that, initially after faking for quite sometime, the truth comes out as expected but in a different situation. Particularly, at a time, which we say, is “not a good time”. These untimely revelations may cause a lot of friction between people with healthy relations. Again, people might argue that when a person does want to discuss it, it’s his/her wish. Also, when they seem its time, they would definitely reveal it to the world. I again agree to that. But isn’t it moral enough to let know about yourself who actually care about you and not to people who show on your face that they care but mock at you when your back is turned? Isn’t it moral enough to let people know so that they could help in case you may need any? Why do they have to fake it all the time like those celebrities,”No comments please”, “Oh it’s nothing like that”, “No No, we are just good friends”, etc. It always helps to SHARE your thoughts or perspectives. You may gain something out of it, may be learn from others’ experiences. It’s not good to let people make a controversy out of such things.

This post might seem a little obscure and boring, but what I want to say is that it’s never good to hide these things from people who have faith in you, care for you and think you as a part of their own self. My personal experience says that it is never advisable to hide even the tiniest part of information or piece of news from your near ones, especially those who are related or can be affected by that. Never helps in strengthening bonds of friendship and kinship. Announcing it at a later stage may also be like adding fuel to fire, making that person believe that he/she is no longer into your circle of trust even when there has been no wrongdoing on their part. And this goes for not only announcing relationships, but in matters or activities which everyone close or living with you should be aware of, however trivial they might be. It builds Trust- an utmost essential thing required in any relationship.

My advice- never hide news or info from your friends, family, beloved ones. It hurts.